Conversation flowed really easily and the silences felt comfortable. We found many things in common. Politically I think we are fairly well aligned. I suspect we have a lot of values in common. He seemed very kind.
And his energy just didn't quite match mine. I don't know quite how to describe it. As we walked through the ship together, he followed my lead and almost felt like that shadow I lost last year. Not in the sense that he is a negative person - all our conversations were upbeat and I had the feeling he saw the positive in life. But maybe more in the sense that he was more content sitting back and letting life happen to him. And although he sometimes expressed guilt about my card being used for drinks, he didn't put a lot of effort into changing that. He was content to let someone else lead him around.
This last year or so has taught me how important energy is. If I'm going to add someone to my life, it needs to be someone who is going to proactively create the life they want not wait for it to happen to them and someone who will want to stand next to me as a partner, not as a leader or a follower.
We said our goodbyes after lunch. He told me he isn't looking for a relationship right now but would enjoy continued friendship with me. He gave me his phone number. He took a selfie of us with his phone and joked that if I wanted a copy of the photo, I would have to text him. He encouraged me to contact him if I ever wanted to hang out either in his city or mine.
I don't yet know what I will do with his number. But I enjoyed getting to know him and it was fun seeing his joy when I showed him a few secrets of the cruise ship.
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