As I was debating whether or not to use hotel points for any of my stays, I went searching for a spreadsheet I thought my ex-husband had started before we separated about points redemptions.
In a Google Drive folder I found a travel folder with a subfolder for every trip we took together - eagle watching on the Mississippi, a road trip to Winnipeg, our 10 year anniversary trip to Canada and New England, the southern Caribbean cruise with his parents before his Dad got sick, Galapagos, the work trip I followed him on to Houston, etc.
I had a few moments of nostalgia until I realized the spreadsheet I was looking for wasn't there, one tracking points redeemed on the hotel credit card I was primary on. But there was a spreadsheet tracking points redeemed on the hotel credit card where he was primary. That sits heavy - he cared about whether his credit card was worth it but not mine.
And that brings to mind an argument we had in a hotel that summer he was waffling on whether to divorce me or not. We had gone to watch the bats emerge from the cave at night. I don't remember quite what we were arguing about at breakfast but I remember pointing out to him that he would get the points from that hotel stay since it was on his account. In that moment, everything felt unfair to me. He was so angry at that comment that I remember trying to backpedal.
But it was because I had hit too close to the truth. We had favored his hotel credit card brand. In going back through my calendar, I'm struggling to find stays at my hotel credit card brand before the separation. He wasn't tracking points redemptions for my credit card because he didn't care - he didn't plan to stay with me and wouldn't benefit from any points we earned on my behalf. He was only interested in what he could get out of it and he left the marriage with a shit load of hotel points.
I guess it's just one more way he was solely focused on his best interests instead of our best interests. I just wish I had seen it better. I wish I hadn't been so naive as I focused on our best interests completely oblivious to the fact that he was working against that.
At least I got out when I did so I can now focus on my best interests. And my best interests involve getting some hotels booked tonight for trips I want to take.
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