I heard he is starting to do some volunteer work at the zoo. It will be good for him. It's things like this he should have done while we were married so he didn't have to lean on me so heavily. It would have given him more outlets. It would have made him a more well-rounded person. It might have helped him mature.
I wonder though if he has added this to his list of things he claims he couldn't do while married. As we separated last year, he blamed me for restricting him and for us not having a more active social life. I remember asking him when I ever said "no" when he proposed something. He didn't have an answer. And he seemed to have forgotten all the times I encouraged him to find his own thing as I went off to choir each week or took classes at the local college or became active in a church.
So I was supposed to not only read his mind that he wanted more social opportunities but also find those opportunities for him?
But back to the here and now, maybe this will be very good for him. Maybe, despite all the pain he caused me, he will actually create something good out of this divorce. Maybe I need to stop worrying about whether or not he will learn anything from this and get back to creating my own good.
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