And if he can present that well in the beginning, if he can be that convincing, another potential partner can do the same. I’ve lost this innocence such that if I ever date, I now consciously know I have to risk the infatuation stage to get to a point where I could start to truly get to know another and even then red flags may be mixed with a lot of convincing pretense.
Tuesday, August 5, 2025
Loss of innocence
I think what actually bothers me the most about him dating again has little to do with him or how I feel about him. It’s that I know exactly how well he shows up at the beginning of a relationship, the whirlwind of attention, the behaviors fueled by dopamine. And I can imagine exactly what he is saying to explain his divorce and how convincing it will come across to someone who doesn’t know him yet.
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