I think I did the best I could.

No, I'm not saying I always said or did the right thing.  But given the starting point I had as an Enneagram five and a bit avoidant, the drain of energy on me of a challenging relationship, and the progress I made over the years to grow, I think I did the best I could.

I learned how to set boundaries when it was important to me and let go of the unimportant.  I worked on my half of the communication when we struggled to communicate as a couple.  I invested much of my limited energy in him as I chose him over and over every day.  And I had done enough work on myself over the past two decades that when I was able to regain my energy after the separation, I could jump into building a new life leaning into many of the traits of a healthy five including the transition from thinking into doing.

I couldn't have foreseen that he would stagnate instead of grow with me.

So although there is plenty I will learn from this relationship, I feel good overall about how I showed up.  And I'm glad it ended now, at a time in my life, when I'm still young enough to create a whole other life for myself.  The gap between us would have just widened if we stayed together.  It would have ended eventually.  Maybe now was the right time.