Monday, March 23, 2026

Kind of a weird day

I had kind of a weird day with a few unrelated awkward moments that briefly pulled me back into the past.

I got a voicemail at work from a man at a state entity who was following up on an e-mail I had sent in November of 2024.  Yes, he was working on a request I had made a year and a half ago.  I couldn't even find the e-mail in my outlook folders to know what case the request might have been relevant to.  I didn't even know what last name I would have used on that e-mail as that was the month everything transitioned over.  Did the contact info he had of me have my married name or my current name?

When I called him at the number he left in the voicemail, a woman answered the phone.  She indicated I had called his wife's phone and wanted to know what this was regarding.  I have to admit I was really puzzled and stumbled when I explained I was returning his call in his role at [state entity].  I told her I would try the number on the caller ID.  After I hung up, I couldn't recall if I had actually identified myself or if I had left her wondering why some strange woman was calling for her husband.

Then this evening as I was leaving my apartment complex to go to my first African Rhythms dance class, I  passed by my maintenance man sitting on a bench talking to another maintenance man.  The other man greeted me first and asked if I had previously lived at a certain apartment complex.  I admitted I had.  He then went on to confirm that I was on the fifth floor in a corner unit.  

As he was asking me these questions, I was trying to recall who the maintenance staff had been.  I couldn't.  I probably blocked them out of my mind because maintenance issues (although with a neglectful management and a rotating door of property managers) had been the reason we had left.  I commented that was quite a few years ago.  He recalled it was as recent as 2023.  I agreed that was when we left.  

He then asked about my husband.  I think this is the first time I've faced this question.  The circle of people who knew us together is quite small and they mostly all saw the divorce happen.  So I haven't really, until this point, run into anyone who both knew I had been married and didn't already know we had divorced.

I paused only a moment before I said, "my ex-husband."  I then turned to my regular maintenance man and said "and I hope he has finally moved out."  My regular maintenance man said, "I think he has."

I kind of laughed as I walked through the park to my class.  It was such an unexpected encounter with someone who remembered me so well but who I could not recall.

And then after I checked in for my class and sat down on a bench to wait for it to start, a woman sat next to me and told me that I looked really familiar.  She couldn't place where she might know me from and I didn't recognize her.  I don't know if she is someone I should remember or if my face just reminds her of someone else.

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