Happy hour after work, Improv classes, social events out, a busy calendar.... After he called it quits, yet while we were still sharing an apartment, he made note of some of the things I had started doing and commented about how this is what he had wanted for us as a couple. He told me he had wanted more of a social life. He seemed jealous that I was moving on to do exactly what he wanted to do. Yet he had not even at that point made any steps to do the same for himself.
It's funny though, not once did he ever mention that while we were still together. Not once did he ever suggest going out and doing these things. He had made no effort to make friends or join social groups. And he hadn't embraced the social opportunities that I had found through my church. (I'm not saying church was necessarily the answer for what he wanted but it was at least my way of bringing a social life to us.)
He actually blamed me for our lack of a social calendar. Like I was supposed to not only read his mind but also do all the work to create a social life for us.
I guess the joke is on him. If he had actually learned to communicate, he probably would have had the life and relationship he wanted.
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