Wednesday, February 26, 2025

Resilience against triggers

I woke up this morning and saw an e-mail in our joint e-mail account (it's taking some time to make sure 2 decades of accounts have been updated to a new e-mail address) that said my husband's credit score had increased.  That is at least the second one I've seen this year.  

Mine has only decreased since the divorce, likely because I had to close my oldest credit card (one that predates our marriage).  I made the mistake of adding him as a secondary account holder early in our marriage so was left with no option but to close it altogether when the divorce happened.

I had my moment of a flash of anger as so much about this divorce has felt unfair.  I seemed to disproportionately bear the consequences of his decisions.

But then I took a deep breath and reminded myself this isn't one of those things I can control so it isn't worth my time or energy.  So I got on with my shower, got ready, and sat down to enjoy my first cup of coffee.

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